Ahh….wedding. Beautiful brides, perfect make up, the handsome groom, yummy cakes, woww decorations, etc etc etc that especially made for our ‘once in a lifetime’ moments.
I have a brother in Christ, Edward Suhadi, which is one of the best photographer in town. (you can check out his post at : http://edwardsuhadi.com/blog.) His specialization is wedding photography. Once he wrote at his blog about wedding day.
no matter how beautiful your wedding is, how extravagant and how amazing the pictures turned out, all those pages of memories is nothing, zero, if you don’t have a great marriage afterwards.
I dated my husband *funny and straight to the point guy*, about 7 years. I thought I knew everything about him…yeah rite, it’s true. I know what does he wants to wear at our vacation (I packed everything….e-ve-ry-thing), I know when he glances at one thing, and what did he think about it. I even know what in his minds even before he tells me. Sometimes with such amazing faces he would asked me, “kok mama tau sih??” 😀
But sometimes, when we’re not agree in one thing, when problem arose, when I think I was right, or when others (from ‘you think you know us’ peoples untill our ‘not so cute moments’ children) interfere our life and gave us a big separation, and when we yelled at each other, or worst one when we don’t talk at all…..I thought I live with a stranger.
Beautiful wedding doesn’t mean ‘finished’ or ‘they lived happily ever after’, and the end.
Beautiful wedding means : it begins!
It means : my single life is over. It means : now we lived as two became one. It means : when we’re fighting, there’s no other option except say sorry no matters who’s right, who’s wrong. It means : Even you’re full of weakness, I will stay love you. It means : there’s no comparison to anybody (not your job, your mother, your hobby, your car, moreover sexy guys! and even your own child).
It means one thing : Commitment to grow our marriage to the fullest.
And it takes two to tango.
And my friends, I met peoples that work out their marriages until the end.
Those peoples knew life is not just about me. They knew life is about to love, to share & to forgive. They fill surround them with joy, and they raised a blessing generation. You just know it when they watch each other…(sigh..)
I want to be like that when I’m grandma, and Erwin is the grandpa ^ ^… (beta pung cinta lai… 😀 :D)
Let’s work it out together, my friends.